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Freedom of Choices…


There are instances of tweets, Facebook posts, news feeds, videos activities and other similar media gupshups done by celebrities. These trend is particularly followed just before release of their movies or immediately after the release. Many times its no more than a movie’s promotion box and fades out. I do respect and support their initiatives and moves in this direction but please make it on regular basis not just for commercial purpose.

From my archive found something which I had penned down when ‘My Choice’ video of Deepika Padukone was circulating in media. We don’t know how much impact that video made on patriarchal society but its for sure the actress and its subject faded into oblivion.

My version of ‘My Choice’ is based on what choices do women from a town, villages aspires for. These aspirations are entirely distinct from aspirations of our celebrities and rare effort is made by the society to ensure them freedom of their choices.

The list is not exclusive and many more choices may be added…

1. My Choice not to marry a person who demands Dowry.

2. My Choice to move out of Parda and do a job and not domestic chores.

3. My Choice to marry a person inferior or superior than me or not marry at all.

4. My choice to say no for consent to have physical relationship.

5. My Choice to have my own surname.

6. My choice to wear what I wish.

7. My choice to roam & move where I want and whatever time I wish.

7. My choice to have/bear my child no matter of her/his gender or to not bear at all.

8. My Choice to claim for paternal property.

9. My Choice to get divorced if marriage relationship is no more peaceful. 

10. My choice not to leave my maternal home after marriage.

11. My Choice to join armed forces in full commission. 

12. My Choice to compete with men all around.

13. My Choice to talk about menstruation openly.

14. My Choice to run home business and work on the farm.

15. My Choice  not to fast or ask husband to fast with me in religious occasions.

Miss Deepika, the video My Choice of you can’t be appreciated aloud for whole woman in India. Issues you raised was just for few woman of highly advanced westernised world and no where can be connected to woman of India.

You were paid to act. 

If you really want to empower women in India then at least move out of your comfort zone and visit a village to know the problem. 

 99 of you may bring a change in at least 99 villages with just stepping in the village.

Its was ur choice to be paid to promote adultery which is illegal and you did it and its my choice to criticise you.


Praise Her !!!

India, a country with diversity where people pride unity among them.

India, the country which has always been nurtured by female; the history of Durga, Kali, Saraswati, Parvati, Lakshmi can never be ignored. The whole country bow before goddess every morning. Whenever men were unable to save the humanity women took the charge. Even during the Kalinga war women were the power which changed Ashoka.
Rani Laxmi Bai, the spirit of freedom movement.

The entire humanity is only possible because of women. India, inherited a culture of women equality, where the word ‘women empowerment’ was never heard off. But now we had witnessed a wide shift in our thought and thinking. The males are not only who underestimates the potential of women but women are also unable to know their potential.

The emotion of country is boiling with the case ‘DAMINI’. The country is protesting, marching, shouting, crying, feeling guilt. The media served us 24 hrs information about the recovery of her health. But our hope and prayer didn’t helped….
She failed to survive, she succumbed to death. Dr. Said she died of multiorgan failure but the real cause of her death is multi system failure. The policy makers failed, the police department failed and moreover the whole society failed, we failed.
This was case of one Damini, crores of females like DAMINI are molested, assaulted and exploited but we are blind to see them. Better we denote ‘DAMINI’ to all girls and women in India to whom we failed to protect. We must mourn to the death of liberty of women to roam freely, we must regret that we didn’t stood for the cause earlier and lost one more life.
The protest at India gate, the liking, commenting and sharing at facebook and even my this blog will not serve the purpose. We need to change the system from the root. First we need to make our own morale strong, females are on earth to operate and manage the humanity not to satisfy you.
As per database in India we have around only 18000 registered rape cases while in America there are around 90000. This is matter not to be proud of but to be ashamed that not all cases are registered in India. The social stigma, immoral behaviour of police and the slow process of justice prevents victims to register cases.
Don’t know why the GOI had not be able to make a strong law to protect our female family, don’t know how the administration failed to implement the existing law, don’t know where the judiciary lacked to speed up the process to punish the culprit and provide justice to the victim. Don’t know why we can’t keep patience and control in our own body…

I just don’t know !!!!

But I know we now need to work from a new direction, from the main reason of the cause. We need to frame a policy which not shouts for women empowerment but enable women to fight for their right themselves; they should need someone else to fight for them.

At the same time we need a strong law and a determined and committed implementing system, a more active police and a judiciary system on fast track.

Come, lets pledge to make this country a safer place to live.

Damini, we will try our best to diminish such hienious crime from our country…

P.S. The author eyes were full of tears and he was depressed when he started to write.

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