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Freedom of Choices…


There are instances of tweets, Facebook posts, news feeds, videos activities and other similar media gupshups done by celebrities. These trend is particularly followed just before release of their movies or immediately after the release. Many times its no more than a movie’s promotion box and fades out. I do respect and support their initiatives and moves in this direction but please make it on regular basis not just for commercial purpose.

From my archive found something which I had penned down when ‘My Choice’ video of Deepika Padukone was circulating in media. We don’t know how much impact that video made on patriarchal society but its for sure the actress and its subject faded into oblivion.

My version of ‘My Choice’ is based on what choices do women from a town, villages aspires for. These aspirations are entirely distinct from aspirations of our celebrities and rare effort is made by the society to ensure them freedom of their choices.

The list is not exclusive and many more choices may be added…

1. My Choice not to marry a person who demands Dowry.

2. My Choice to move out of Parda and do a job and not domestic chores.

3. My Choice to marry a person inferior or superior than me or not marry at all.

4. My choice to say no for consent to have physical relationship.

5. My Choice to have my own surname.

6. My choice to wear what I wish.

7. My choice to roam & move where I want and whatever time I wish.

7. My choice to have/bear my child no matter of her/his gender or to not bear at all.

8. My Choice to claim for paternal property.

9. My Choice to get divorced if marriage relationship is no more peaceful. 

10. My choice not to leave my maternal home after marriage.

11. My Choice to join armed forces in full commission. 

12. My Choice to compete with men all around.

13. My Choice to talk about menstruation openly.

14. My Choice to run home business and work on the farm.

15. My Choice  not to fast or ask husband to fast with me in religious occasions.

Miss Deepika, the video My Choice of you can’t be appreciated aloud for whole woman in India. Issues you raised was just for few woman of highly advanced westernised world and no where can be connected to woman of India.

You were paid to act. 

If you really want to empower women in India then at least move out of your comfort zone and visit a village to know the problem. 

 99 of you may bring a change in at least 99 villages with just stepping in the village.

Its was ur choice to be paid to promote adultery which is illegal and you did it and its my choice to criticise you.



Originally it is INTERNATIONAL working WOMEN’S DAY but our patriarchal society of the globe made to remark 8th of March of every year as INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY to show their virtual respect towards our other half. This particular day is said to be dedicated for empowerment of women of the world. Oppressed women take the pride of having an entire day dedicated for them. The men also take the gratification of recognizing the meaning of women in our life on this particular day.

But, in the midst of WOMEN’S DAY and call for Women Empowerment we disregard the fact that they also represent the same stats in population as we men do. They are also entitled for the same dignity and equality in the society as we men want. The day is in existence for around a century but the sole purpose of remarking the day is still to be achieved. Better, we should ask ourselves a question: “Why was there a need to recognize a day dedicated for Women? And why we Indians are not ashamed of commemorating it in our society.” I didn’t mean that we need not to strive to bring equality to women rather I mean there is no need to mark a day for it. Every 365 days of a year must be special for them and our action. The status of women in India has been subject to many great changes over the past few millennia.From equal status with men in ancient times through the low points of the medieval period, to the promotion of equal rights by many reformers, the history of women in India has been eventful. But the present condition makes us ashamed.

A person is always obliged to women either in relation of mother, sister, wife, daughter, other family member or even as friend. But still we fail to recognize the significance of this gender in our society. If she can give us birth then she can do anything. Don’t underestimate their biological harmone and them; they are creator of Nature and life. Don’t forget Indian culture has been nurtured by females – the history of Durga, Kali, Saraswati, Parvati, Lakshmi is well known with respect. Whenever men were unable to save the humanity women took the charge.

Don’t be confounded of the participation of women in daily activity but be concerned about the daily incident of harassment, unease, molestation, insecurity, discrimination, infanticide a female gender in India has to face. Be distressed about their representation in education, employment, business, armed forces and services and every other activity where men have dominance.

If the patriarchal society is really concerned about female gender and need to celebrate this 8th March to mark their development in spheres of life then make your every day dedicated to curb Sexual harassment, Dowry, Child marriage, Female infanticide and sex-selective abortion, Domestic violence, Trafficking, Eve teasing, Family planning, Sex ratios. No woman is empowered even if single of this incidence happens in our society. And to verify ourselves that we are really striving for woman empowerment I have a litmus test: “Talk of woman empowerment only if you will be comfortable taking surname of your wife instead of your paternal surname, you will be comfortable marrying a woman of height more than yours, you will feel comfortable in the society when your wife goes for work and you engage yourself daily in household activity.”

If something needs empowerment it’s our thought and thinking process. The patriarchal society needs empowerment not the chaste WOMEN.

A Pledge is a Pledge and a Promise is a Promise; let’s make it a time for Action for the change.

Praise Her !!!

India, a country with diversity where people pride unity among them.

India, the country which has always been nurtured by female; the history of Durga, Kali, Saraswati, Parvati, Lakshmi can never be ignored. The whole country bow before goddess every morning. Whenever men were unable to save the humanity women took the charge. Even during the Kalinga war women were the power which changed Ashoka.
Rani Laxmi Bai, the spirit of freedom movement.

The entire humanity is only possible because of women. India, inherited a culture of women equality, where the word ‘women empowerment’ was never heard off. But now we had witnessed a wide shift in our thought and thinking. The males are not only who underestimates the potential of women but women are also unable to know their potential.

The emotion of country is boiling with the case ‘DAMINI’. The country is protesting, marching, shouting, crying, feeling guilt. The media served us 24 hrs information about the recovery of her health. But our hope and prayer didn’t helped….
She failed to survive, she succumbed to death. Dr. Said she died of multiorgan failure but the real cause of her death is multi system failure. The policy makers failed, the police department failed and moreover the whole society failed, we failed.
This was case of one Damini, crores of females like DAMINI are molested, assaulted and exploited but we are blind to see them. Better we denote ‘DAMINI’ to all girls and women in India to whom we failed to protect. We must mourn to the death of liberty of women to roam freely, we must regret that we didn’t stood for the cause earlier and lost one more life.
The protest at India gate, the liking, commenting and sharing at facebook and even my this blog will not serve the purpose. We need to change the system from the root. First we need to make our own morale strong, females are on earth to operate and manage the humanity not to satisfy you.
As per database in India we have around only 18000 registered rape cases while in America there are around 90000. This is matter not to be proud of but to be ashamed that not all cases are registered in India. The social stigma, immoral behaviour of police and the slow process of justice prevents victims to register cases.
Don’t know why the GOI had not be able to make a strong law to protect our female family, don’t know how the administration failed to implement the existing law, don’t know where the judiciary lacked to speed up the process to punish the culprit and provide justice to the victim. Don’t know why we can’t keep patience and control in our own body…

I just don’t know !!!!

But I know we now need to work from a new direction, from the main reason of the cause. We need to frame a policy which not shouts for women empowerment but enable women to fight for their right themselves; they should need someone else to fight for them.

At the same time we need a strong law and a determined and committed implementing system, a more active police and a judiciary system on fast track.

Come, lets pledge to make this country a safer place to live.

Damini, we will try our best to diminish such hienious crime from our country…

P.S. The author eyes were full of tears and he was depressed when he started to write.

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